I know I’m not the only one who doesn’t even dream of wanting to be thirteen again. Oh, the glory days of puberty and experimentation.
Puberty for me meant what it usually does for girls physically but emotionally it took a whole different toll on me besides the regular “hormones.” Whether or not you relate to my story, I’m sure most girls would appreciate this advice. Thirteen is the hardest age.
When I turned thirteen my hair had definitely been dyed at least 4 different colors. My teeth were all over the place and I have no idea why I did my makeup the way I did. In fact, I plucked all of my eyebrows out until I had patches, which leads me to my first point:
- Do not touch your eyebrows! Leave them alone, they didn’t do anything to you! If you have a thirteen year old kid, save them from the horrifying result of bald spots on their eyebrows for practically the rest of their life.
- Kids can be mean. It isn’t your fault. You didn’t do anything. Keep doing your makeup how you like, wear what you like, and if they make fun of you, it’s their own insecurity! Don’t beat yourself up.
- Think before you talk. If someone gets you steamed up, it’s best to sit back and think about the whole situation. Acting irrationally makes things worse!
- Friends > Boyfriends! Never cut out your friends for a boy. Ever!
- Trust your parents. Although they may seem like they’re trying their best to make your life miserable, it’s the complete opposite. I know that irritable teenager hormones can sometimes twist things around to make them look bad, but they love you and are doing their best. They know what’s going to happen before it even happens: some kind of weird parent psychic thing with no explanation.
- Don’t step out of your comfort zone in order to fit in. This one is a little tricky because peer pressure kicks in for young teens to do dangerous things. Always listen to your gut.
- Control your social media! I know how exciting it is to post cute pics of random things and post a status update every 5 minutes, but trust me: your future self will be embarrassed.
- If you’re feeling sick mentally, seek help: talk to someone. I lost a couple years of childhood to mental illness and it is scary. I cannot imagine people who have been suffering their whole lives. You’re in control of your life! You deserve the best.
- Don’t grow up too fast. I promise that when you get older you’ll be thinking about being a kid and having no worries.
- Walk a mile in someone else’s shoes. This is so cheesy, trust me I know. There is an adequate amount of truth to every cheesy line like this. Before you judge someone, act irrationally, or simply frown, remember that they might’ve just had the worst day of their life, maybe they had the best. Do you really want to make their bad day worse, or ruin their good day?
- Don’t bleach your hair too much. Okay, but how do you know if it’s too much? When your hair feels like pure straw. How do I know this? I’m sure you’d love to see the many hair colors I had, for which it had to be bleached almost every time. Healthy hair is happy hair 😉
- There are going to be people who don’t like you even if you hand them a million dollars. This one is so important. I’ve been a people-pleaser all of my life. I’ve always done whatever I can for others but to no avail, I am stuck at the very bottom with no progression in friendship. There are just people like that, who have their mind made up. Don’t focus your energy on these people!
- Girls: stick together. This is significant now more than ever. We are the generation to make a difference! There needs to be a difference made. Equality issues among many minorities is prominent today. I’ve seen it way too much, girls pitting against each other. This isn’t going to help – we really need to come together! In the meantime no, this is not what young girls worry about, and it’s not something they should worry about. We know they love their fidget spinners and musical.lys, but what’s going on in the world needs to be recognized. It needs to be noticed that there are bigger issues happening than whether Susie stole Sally’s boyfriend or if there’s a rumor about what Jane’s sexuality is. These things are so small, and they are what tear us apart. We need to uplift each other! I strongly believe that this small change will create a ripple impact into a worldly one. Girls are the future.
These are things I’ve learned and things I’ve spoken to about others. Yes, most are silly and not at all horribly life altering, but there are some things part of me wishes I did differently.
At the same time, I don’t regret it. Without learning all of these things, I would not be doing the Miss Teenage Canada pageant and I would not be able to share my knowledge with everyone else. Thank you guys so much for giving me the opportunity to do this!